November 5, 2020

Hello Tina,

This November we have a lot to think about.  

Usually, the month is geared toward a feast with family or friends, reminiscing on all that we’re grateful for as we shove food in our mouths around a Thanksgiving table. 

This year may look different. Some may choose not to travel or be with large groups of people, and others will choose to carry out their traditions.   

Prior to this bountiful feast, we face an election.  

Regardless of who you vote for, the reality is our friends, family and country will have a choice to make. Whoever wins, we must keep in mind that half of the country will be happy, while the other half will not. The choice becomes how we respond to whatever the result. We can choose to remain bitter or we can become better. So what will you choose?


To choosing better, 


Tina Asher
Business/Career Coach • Trainer • Facilitator
Build U Up Consulting


P.S. Thank you to my faithful readers, clients, family, and friends. I’m grateful for your part in my life and appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. I’m blessed to know you and thankful for your continued support in my business. 

Will You Choose Bitter or Better?

Recently, I’ve had clients who have been struggling to make some tough decisions. They feel fed up, discouraged, disrespected, not valued or not heard. Similar to how some of us may feel with the COVID crisis or the upcoming election.  

Here’s what I’ve learned. We have a choice to make. We can remain bitter or we can become better. So what will you choose?

Choosing to stay bitter offers this:

  • Continue to bring up the past
  • Feeling angry or stressed
  • Not pleasant to be around
  • Single-minded thinking
  • The Eeyore way of moving through life from Winnie the Pooh – woe is me; “I’ll just take what is handed to me, nothing goes right.”

Sound familiar? 

What if we chose to be better?

  • Learn from our past and know what we want to do differently next time, starting now
  • Open-minded thinking, recognize that there are other perspectives
  • Listen and be curious to another viewpoint before judging
  • Experience peace knowing you did what you could and there’s a lesson to be learned 
  • Pleasant to be around

With every obstacle, there is a choice to learn from it.  

Stuck in a job you hate? 
Stuck in a relationship that’s unhealthy? 
Stuck inside because of a virus or illness? 

If you’re stuck in any situation, you’ve learned several things leading up to it. Use what you’ve learned to re-direct your approach at making your circumstance better, whether that’s in your current environment or into something new. 

When we choose to learn from our experiences, we automatically become better. Better enlightened, better to be around, better to become what we strive to be.  

So how will your November be? What will you be grateful for even if things don’t turn out how you hoped? 

People like to be around people who choose to be better, not bitter. Which will you choose?

Recommended Reading ...

The Traveler's Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success by Andy Andrews


What makes the difference between failure and success? 

The Traveler’s Gift offers a modern-day parable of one man’s choices—and the attitudes that make the difference between failure and success.

 

Be Inspired ...

Upcoming Events ...

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Helpful Resources ...

Managers & Leaders: Download this free guide to discover where you might be out of balance so you can become a better boss.

Career Help: Unsure about your job? Download this free tool to assess your career and see where you might be out of balance. 

Better Communication: Want to communicate better with your co-workers and family? This three-part self-study course "Building Better Communication" is designed to help you better understand yourself and the people in your life.

Connect with Me: Click here to schedule a complimentary Strategy Session to chat about how I can help you better communicate with and develop your team and build you up for success. 

Tina Asher
Career Coach • Trainer • Facilitator

With 20+ years in leading, training, sales management, and coaching, Tina Asher brings a broad skillset to helping busy professionals elevate their success. She holds certifications with one of the world's leading sources for science-based, validated assessment and coaching tools. Tina is passionate about serving others to reach their full potential while balancing a full and productive life.

   

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