September 7, 2021

Hi Tina,

How often has fear stopped you from making changes in your life?

  • I want a new job – I’m probably not qualified.
  • I want to lose weight – I doubt I can keep up with the workouts and eating plans
  • I want to move to a new place – my family or friends won’t understand

The list goes on.

When you allow fear to grab a hold of your dreams, you lose the race for peace and happiness.

It’s exciting to help people approach change without fear. Many times, I see clients conquer the fear of change and excel in not only their initial goal to make the change, but to see how it has a ripple effect in other areas of their lives. 

Fear often stands between us and our ability to make decisions, take actions, ask for what we want—even to know what we really want. It is the gatekeeper of our comfort zone. But as poet-philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “He has not learned the lesson of life who does not every day surmount a fear.” Below are 10 fears that commonly get in our way.

  1. Fear of being judged. Needing approval from family or peers can keep us from going after dreams and goals.
  2. Fear of rejection. Rejection just means that someone else has a different opinion.
  3. Fear of emotional pain. Rather than incapacitate us, painful feelings can sharpen our sense of joy and gratitude.
  4. Fear of embarrassment. Making mistakes publicly is awful only when we let ourselves feel ashamed.
  5. Fear of being alone/abandoned. A strong sense of self-worth and what we can offer the world reduces this fear.
  6. Fear of failure. A biggie for most of us and born of the notion that it’s not OK to fail.
  7. Fear of success. More responsibility, more attention, and pressure to perform can be frightening when we don’t believe in ourselves.
  8. Fear of expressing feelings. An authentic life means being willing to express our true feelings to our loved ones, colleagues, adversaries—even ourselves.
  9. Fear of intimacy. Emotional intimacy—really being seen by another—can be as scary as sexual intimacy.
  10. Fear of the unknown. The unknown can be exciting and vast if we shift our fear to curiosity.

Which of these fears are you prone to? If you’d like to chat about how to overcome them, please reply to this email and let’s have a conversation. I just may have an idea or two that can help.

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To your success,

Tina Asher
Business/Career Coach • Trainer • Author
Build U Up Consulting

Recommended Reading

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey

This is an oldie but a goodie. I believe everyone should read and re-read this book throughout their lifetime. 

One of the most inspiring and impactful books ever written, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has captivated readers for 25 years. It has transformed the lives of millions of people of all ages and occupations across the world.

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